Relational, trauma-informed therapy with Taylor Loesekam
A space for who you are and who you’re becoming
Hi! I’m Taylor — and I’m happy you’re here.
I think many of us learn how to survive long before we learn how to truly be with ourselves. We learn how to stay productive, stay guarded, stay agreeable, stay needed. We learn how to keep moving while feeling disconnected underneath it all.
Sometimes we come to therapy wanting relief from anxiety, depression, or the exhaustion of carrying so much for so long. And of course we do — why wouldn’t we? We reach a point of exhaustion where the only thing we can fathom is the need for a break. However, I don’t believe our symptoms exist in isolation from the lives we’ve lived or the worlds we’ve had to adapt in. Often, the ‘symptoms’ we want relief from make a lot of sense in context.
My work is rooted in creating a different experience — one where you don’t have to perform, explain yourself perfectly, or stay on guard in order to be met with care. Together, we slow down enough to notice what your body, emotions, and relationships have been holding for years, allowing us to create space for deeper self-understanding, connection, and the possibility of relating to yourself in new ways.
You Deserve More Than Just Surviving
Many of us learn to accept suffering as inevitable. We adapt to difficult relationships, harmful systems, impossible expectations, and ways of living that leave us disconnected from ourselves. Over time, it can become hard to imagine anything different.
One of the things that continues to ground my work is the belief that something else is possible. Whether we’re talking about our relationships, our communities, our spirituality, or the ways we relate to ourselves, I believe we all deserve more than just survival. We deserve connection, belonging, dignity, care, and opportunities to live in ways that feel more aligned with who we are.
While therapy alone cannot change every system that shapes our lives, it can create space to reconnect with what matters, imagine new possibilities, and move towards a life that feels more fully ours.
what is the 4th space?
the 4th space was created from the belief that many of us move through the world disconnected from ourselves in ways we were never meant to be. In environments that ask us to constantly perform, adapt, over-function, or stay guarded in order to feel safe and accepted, it can become difficult to know where survival ends and where you begin.
At its heart, I created the 4th space as an invitation to slow down, reconnect, and discover what becomes possible when there is room for more of who you truly are.
“The goal of the journey is to return home to the heart.”
— A. Helwa, Secrets of Divine Love