Relational, trauma-informed therapy with Taylor Loesekam
Hi! I’m Taylor — and I’m happy you’re here.
I think many of us learn how to survive long before we learn how to truly be with ourselves. We learn how to stay productive, stay guarded, stay agreeable, stay needed. We learn how to keep moving while feeling disconnected underneath it all.
Sometimes we come to therapy wanting relief from anxiety, depression, or the exhaustion of carrying so much for so long. And of course we do — why wouldn’t we? We reach a point of exhaustion where the only thing we can fathom is the need for a break. However, I don’t believe our symptoms exist in isolation from the lives we’ve lived or the worlds we’ve had to adapt in. Often, the ‘symptoms’ we want relief from make a lot of sense in context.
My work is rooted in creating a different experience — one where you don’t have to perform, explain yourself perfectly, or stay on guard in order to be met with care. Together, we slow down enough to notice what your body, emotions, and relationships have been holding for years, allowing us to create space for deeper self-understanding, connection, and the possibility of relating to yourself in new ways.
what is the 4th space?
the 4th space was created from the belief that many of us move through the world disconnected from ourselves in ways we were never meant to be. In environments that ask us to constantly perform, adapt, over-function, or stay guarded in order to feel safe and accepted, it can become difficult to know where survival ends and where you begin.
At its heart, I created the 4th space as an invitation to slow down, reconnect, and discover what becomes possible when there is room for more of who you truly are.
You May Recognize Yourself Here
While every person’s story is unique, many of the people I work with share similar experiences, patterns, and questions. You don’t need to relate to everything below, but if you happen to find yourself in one (or more) of these descriptions, it’s possible we may be a good fit for each other!
You find yourself questioning beliefs you once held, carrying shame around identity, or grappling with how to have a relationship with spirituality that feels safe and compassion-led, rather than anxiety inducing.
Religious Trauma & Spirituality
Identity & Belonging
You’re exploring who you are beyond expectations, questioning parts of yourself you’ve been taught to hide, or searching for a place where you can fully belong.
Anxiety & Hypervigilance
Your mind rarely slows down, you feel responsible for everything around you, or it feels difficult to fully relax even when things seem okay.
Life Transitions
You’re navigating a significant change, uncertainty, loss, or new chapter and finding yourself searching for steadier ground.
Relational, Developmental, & Complex Trauma
You often feel the impact of experiences that taught you to stay small, stay alert, stay responsible, or disconnect from yourself entirely in order to make it through.
Relationships & Attachment
You find yourself repeating the same relationship patterns, struggling to trust, fearing rejection, or losing yourself in connection with others.
Intergenerational Patterns
You’re beginning to notice patterns that have been passed down through family, culture, or community, and questioning what you want to carry forward.
Disconnection & Self-Abandonment
You’ve spent so long surviving, adapting, or caring for others that you feel you’ve lost touch with your own needs, desires, or sense of self.
Who Often Finds Their Way Here
I frequently work with LGBTQIA2S+ individuals, women, neurodivergent individuals, helping professionals, caregivers, creatives, eldest daughters, and those navigating questions of identity, spirituality, and belonging.
While these are some of the themes and communities that show up most often in my practice, these are not the only people or presentations that I work with. If your experience isn’t explicitly listed above, but you’re curious about working together, I encourage you to reach out for a free consultation.
“The goal of the journey is to return home to the heart.”
— A. Helwa, Secrets of Divine Love